I know better than to get upset by the rantings of a bully and so that's not what upset me. What hurt--and I use that word purposefully--was watching so many decent people defend him and his vileness, whether out of agreement or self-interest, I don't know. Knowing that this kind of thinking is acceptable for at least 15 million people in this country makes me feel vulnerable and afraid. Knowing that at least 8 companies were willing to say differently makes me feel a little better.
Let me be clear: this is not about disagreement between people about legitimate issues. What is at stake here is addressing disagreement or differences with women by seeking to humiliate or degrade them sexually. It was wrong when Ed Shultz did it last year by calling Laura Ingraham a slut. It was wrong last week when another "entertainer" did it on the radio and then added so much more vile commentary. It is wrong when it happens to Michelle Bachmann and Sarah Palin and it is wrong when it happens to Hillary Clinton and Michelle Obama. It is wrong when it happens in families as domestic violence. It is wrong when soldiers and militias do it as they systematically rape women and girls in Africa and other war zones. It's wrong when it shows up in its mildest form and it's wrong when it shows up in its most tragic. What disturbs and scares me is that we apparently don't have agreement on that.